Happy Tuesday, friends!
- I am grateful for a truly marvelous Monday, filled with all things productive and restful
- I am grateful for Trader Joe’s Bok Choy
- I am grateful for the opportunity to work with some incredible kiddos this past week, creating fantastic original short plays and monologues!
Lately I’ve been considering my use of the word “how,” and that I want to be more conscientious about the role it plays (or doesn’t), in my life.
I’m referring to “how” in the following context:
Person A: “I really want to….(fill in the blank with cool thing that Person A dreams of doing)”
Person B: “How are you going to do that?”
Person A *disappears into a hole in the floor because he/she doesn’t know yet, and suddenly feels stupid for bringing it up*
What is the thing that you’d most like to do, or create, or have – if you could do, or create, or have anything? Maybe you’re dying to:
- Write a novel
- Quit your job and pursue a new line of work
- Own a pet
- Cultivate a relationship
- Start a new club, company, or other organization
- Build something
- End something
- Create a piece of art
Let’s say that two people want to start their own business, have engaging ideas and a unique perspective, but have no clue where to begin.
Do either of these sound familiar to you?
Person 1: Debilitated by doubt, person A has big dreams, but because he/she can’t see a clear path ahead, releases the idea, or alters it enough to be “realistic.”
Person 2: Also has no idea but fakes it until he/she makes it. Regardless of the end outcome, person 2 tends to learn a lot, and at least moves closer to said goal.
I’ve been both of these people. As I’m sure you have. And I’ve watched many inspiring folks “fake it until they make it,” to fabulous and sometimes even miraculous results. Ultimately, I think the magic happens when we just decide that we’re going to do something, and figure out the “how” as we go. We create the path. When “the plan” doesn’t already exist, we make one. So what makes this so challenging for some of us? Why do we bother to entertain the voice inside that becomes frozen with fear and inadequacy when we can’t see a clear road ahead?
Do you ever have thoughts like…
- “Well I’ve never done this, I don’t even know where to start…”
- “I don’t have the money, time, energy, etc. to really invest in this dream…”
- “I should wait until I (lists off things that are “more important”) before I even think about tackling this…”
- “No one is going to buy me/believe in me/support me, a total amateur attempting this…”
- “There are already people who DO what I want to do, so why am I bothering?”
- “This goal isn’t practical or realistic.”
- “I’m too old.”
- “I’m too ___________(insert your own).”
Right? I’ve done it. Probably you’ve done it.
But. Things I try to remind myself of:
- Anyone who ever did ANYTHING great, at one point had no idea what they were doing – everyone is a novice/beginner at some moment in time
- Someone has to pave the way, why not you?
- Most of the time, people have no idea that you’re “faking it until you make it,” if you approach the work with enthusiasm, humility, and passion
- Stop being afraid to ask questions, self – you’ve got to learn sometime. It’s ok.
- If you fail at whatever you’re attempting to achieve, you’re in good company. Look at all of these famous failures – http://www.bradaronson.com/famous-failures/
- Every time we “figure it out” and do something we never thought we could do, we are increasing our capacity for all kinds of possibility and growth
- Risk is everything
So what do you say, Celebrationists? Join me this week in dreaming big, daring boldly, and sinking our teeth into desire without worrying too much about “how?” Care to join me in figuring it out as we go?
Have a great week, Celebrationists!