Happy Week 50, Celebrationists.
- I am grateful for my marvelous roomie with his incredible listening ear, brilliant sense of humor, and deep understanding of anything I ever say, even when I’m not explaining myself wonderfully
- I am grateful for the ceiling fan in my bedroom
- I am grateful to be reconnecting with friends who I haven’t seen in a few months
50 weeks is a lot of writing. But it hasn’t felt like it. And to be honest, I don’t have much sense at all about who reads this blog regularly, once in awhile, or not at all.
For as many self-help books as I’ve devoured since I was a teenager, and as much personal work as I’ve put into “enjoying the journey,” and “focusing on the process” of things, the truth is that at the end of the day, 9.5 times out of 10 I still crave results. Like many, I’m something of a progress-addict, which makes it frustrating when I don’t feel like I’m making enough. But I have to say that writing this blog has been different. It’s something I’ve done because I really love to write. And I really love exploring heart-thoughts. And I really love people. And drawing parallels between our experiences in the hopes that we might not feel so alone. This blog is something I’ve done with the humble intention of maybe of helping others, but also – it’s been very much something I’ve done for me.
It makes me think, “What are the other things I do in my life that are just for me? Because I just want to do them?” I’ll tell you I can’t think of a ton.
What are the things we do that aren’t (even indirectly) about furthering our career, personal growth, making money, etc? As adults, I feel like that list gets shorter and shorter over time as we become ruled by words like “should,” and “responsibility.” And responsibility is a totally important and legit word (I’ll save my thoughts on “should” for another post), but I think it can be really healing to sometimes do things that have no larger function other than…because we just want to. Because we are worth it. Because by giving ourselves these small joys, we don’t feel deprived. And then we can spread joy from an authentic place, and not a conditional, bargaining, withholding place.
You’ve read it before, I’m sure, that we are able to care much better for other people when we take care of ourselves first. I’ve seen proof of this truth over and over again. Hard-working and driven people who become jaded and bitter because they don’t take time for themselves. And as much as it’s nice to feel appreciated by others…we have to give ourselves that validation, too. A million compliments, words of appreciation, and affection will mean very little if we aren’t giving ourselves a little TLC every once in awhile. Unconditional TLC. TLC that has nothing to do with results.
So in honor of my 50th blog week, I want to gift you with 50 ideas – things you might do just for yourself because they bring you little bits of joy.
1.) Get your nails done, or do them yourself
2.) Read a book that has nothing to do with your career, or self-improvement
3.) Spend the time and money cooking yourself a really fancy and wonderful meal
4.) Wander through a part of town you’ve never explored before
5.) Paint. Even if you’re bad at it. Especially if you’re bad at it
6.) Watch a few episodes of something on Netflix
7.) Give yourself a facial
8.) Sleep in
9.) Go through old Facebook albums and remember good times
10.) Make a vision board
11.) Read a children’s book or young adult novel
12.) Get dressed up and go somewhere fancy
13.) Get dressed down and stay in
14.) Bake yourself something
15.) Skype someone you miss
16.) Get yourself some flowers
17.) Turn off your phone for a few hours, and don’t check your email
18.) Write something
19.) Read a poem
21.) Do something active because you enjoy it, and not because you’ll feel guilty if you don’t.
22.) Find a friend with an animal, and cuddle it. Or cuddle your own. Or go to a Petstore and cuddle one if you’re allowed.
23.) Watch a movie that makes you cry. Or laugh. Or eat a lot of popcorn.
24.) Make an old-school craft
25.) Plant something. Or buy a plant. Or visit a place with plants.
26.) Try something just because you want to, and not because it’s useful. Like learning Russian.
27.) Plan your dream wedding
28.) Get your favorite childhood snack food, and just eat it for goodness sakes
29.) Listen to a podcast while laying on your bed. Or running. Or cooking. Or wherever you feel like.
30.) Have friends over and just hang out
31.) Be totally alone if that’s your jam, and don’t see another human for a whole day.
32.) Make music
33.) Make no noise at all
34.) Make tacos
35.) Find out what’s free in your ‘hood this week, and go do that
36.) Rearrange your furniture
37.) Send someone something fun in the mail
38.) Listen to a record on a record player (Make a friend with a record player)
39.) Take pictures of things
40.) Find someplace with a great view, and go sit there
41.) Frame a photo and put it somewhere nice
42.) Get a massage, make someone massage you, or find a tennis ball, lay on it, and roll around on the floor.
43.) Roll around on the floor. Friend optional.
44.) Play a game
45.) Go find someplace where you can listen to live music
46.) Go to a museum
47.) Take a bath. And if you’re one of those people who thinks that baths are gross (which I can respect, but just can’t agree with because I LOVE them in an appropriate and clean tub) take a long shower
48.) Wear your favorite outfit
49.) Watch a sports game. Or a play. Or performance art piece. Or something else awesome and live that gets you excited. (A sports game will never get me excited unless it is my sister playing one of her various sports that she played as a youth, but I understand this has appeal, and respect athletes immensely…)
50.) Start a blog : )
You might think “I don’t have time to do these kinds of things.” I hear you, validate your feelings of busy-ness, and respect your words. But I have to tell you. I don’t put a lot of stock in that statement. We all have the same 24 hours and no one is steering our ship but us. We can use those 24 hours in any way we like. Who do you look up to? Mother Teresa had 24 hours in a day, Bill Gates has 24 hours in a day, *insert your personal rockstar here* has 24, as well. That’s not to say it’s always easy. That’s not to say that other things sometimes need to get done first. Probably they do. But I don’t buy that we never have time, and never will time. We have to make it. We get to make it.
Be good to yourselves this week, Celebrationists. Happy 50th : )